How do I ask transgender and gender-variant people about their gender surgeries?

Just as it is not socially acceptable to ask about someone’s medical history when you first meet them, it is not acceptable to ask Transgender or Gender-Variant people about whether or not they’ve had surgeries or how “far along” they are in their transition process.

There is not one single surgery that a person needs to transitionit can require many different types of surgeries and hormone replacement therapy. If someone wants to share their medical history or their transition journey with you, it is entirely up to them.  Do not ask Transgender and Gender-Variant people about their genitals.